Thought for the Week – Reverend Anne Richards
Do not worry…
16th October 2017
For some strange reason, on Saturday, my car door on the driver’s side wouldn’t close properly. Now, I know it’s quite an old car so it’s bound to have things go wrong on it. But I found myself driving along, and thinking it was not only noisy, but also rather drafty. It wasn’t immediately obvious what was wrong with it, but when I reached my destination I spent a few minutes opening and closing the door. Nothing seemed to work. So I thought perhaps it would be more effective if I slammed it harder. After slamming it a few times it still didn’t make any difference. Then, all of a sudden, the door jammed shut completely and I couldn’t get out. I climbed through the passenger side and got out, walked round to the driver’s door and opened it no problem. And then closed it no problem. I began to wonder if I was the object of some kind of prank – or whether I had been transported into the set of a Mr Bean sketch.
The next day I went through exactly the same pantomime with the car – and it was only when I asked for help, and my husband applied WD40, the problem was solved.
Sometimes dealing with poor mental health can be a bit like that. We battle on with something we are struggling with, getting more irritated, frustrated or stressed with it – and over time it can of course become a greater problem than it was at the outset.
Last week included Mental Health Awareness Day on October 10th. This week in the academy we are having a focus on mental health and well being with our students on Thursday and Friday. For those of us who have experienced poor mental health at any point in our lives, (apparently 1 in 6 people in the last week according to the Mental Health Foundation, and 1 in 4 young people and children in our city) – we know that it’s a difficult and overwhelming experience that seems relentless and unconquerable. And the more we try to battle it – the more difficult it seems to get, and the more we can think we are losing our grip. Until we reach out for some help.
In my own experience, I have found prayer and stillness to be the best antidote to stress, anxiety and worry. Other things help too, including talking with someone – but it’s often been in the moment of trusting God and offering him the stuff that worries me most, that I reach a point of peace.
‘Do not worry about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus’.
The Wisdom House
9th October 2017
‘There’s a story of a land far away where the old people, before they died, wrote down a life lesson on a scroll. The scroll would be rolled up, and the villagers would keep them in a hut at the centre of the village.Once a year, the elders would gather everyone together and they would read those life lessons, not just to the young, but to those in later life too. They called that little hut The Wisdom House’
Rob Parsons: Care for the Family
This little story caught my eye recently and it got me thinking about where we look for wisdom, and indeed especially where our young people look for wisdom. And it’s no great surprise that most likely, the first port of call for collective wisdom will be the internet. The 21st Century virtual Wisdom House. In social networking there is groundswell of collective wisdom, often rooted in the pursuit of love, kindness and happiness, but it’s mixed in with a kedgeree of other stuff. The challenge to our young people is to have a discernment about the information they are receiving.
Whilst it may be a source of all kinds of knowledge and experience, there is of course a risk with the internet that it becomes the primary source of so called wisdom and that it is not balanced with any earthed wisdom from people who are known and trusted.
When I think of the people who have seemed wise and offered good counsel in my own life, they have invariably been people who are rooted and grounded in faith, and have a varied experience of life, often older than me, and as well, have a deep knowledge of scripture.
The bible is a great source of wisdom – both Old Testament and New Testament. The writer of Proverbs, King Solomon, says that wisdom and understanding are better than gold and silver.
So, a challenge for us all could be about how we harness our collective wisdom and share it with our students, when opportunities present themselves. But also to reflect upon our own sources of wisdom in the first place, that we might also be a 21st Century Wisdom House.
2nd October 2017
Recently, I have found myself compelled by a BBC series called ‘Saving Lives at Sea’. It is a documentary about the work of the RNLI. Lifeboat crews around the UK have filmed their responses to their call-outs over a number of years and the programme follows their sometimes hair-raising journies of rescue – as they save life after life, often in pretty treacherous conditions.
What is striking, is firstly that these people are all volunteers, who at the sound of their bleeper, down tools from whatever they are doing and get themselves to the lifeboat station as fast as they can. They then risk their own lives as they venture into dangerous circumstances in order bring others to safety, no matter what time of day or night.
Secondly, what struck me, is their lack of judgement or condemnation about the people or on some occasions, animals, they rescue. As an observer, it’s easy to watch and see that the problem could have been avoided, at least in some circumstances. People who are rescued are often people who have taken what might seem to you and I, foolish risks. And yet the Lifeboat Crew keep the main thing as the main thing – to rescue and save life.
It seems to take a certain type of person to do this work – they display a selflessness, which is second to none, and a determination to save lives no matter what.
Within our academy motto, the second word is ‘serve’ and of course is rooted in the example of Jesus encouraging his disciples to firstly allow him to wash their feet, and secondly to wash one another’s feet. But perhaps if we want to see some 21st Century examples of what it is to be Christ-Like in serving others – then perhaps the example of our lifeboat crews is a good place to look.
Looking in the mirror
19th September 2017
It has been a great privilege to have been recruiting, interviewing and selecting our Yr 11 students who applied to be part of our Student Leadership Team. What struck me was the commitment, determination and courage that it takes for a young person to put themselves forward for something like this.
It was both wonderful and encouraging to hear what they had to say, about themselves and about our academy. One of them named a previous Head Girl who had inspired her to apply, because she really looked up to her and saw her as a role model. All of them are keen to help the younger students both with their work but also with other things. The majority of them spoke highly of their teachers, and the support they get with their learning, as well as all the other support which is available to them. The Archie Family was mentioned and one or two of them commented on what a great atmosphere we have here in this academy.
The other thing that was so positive was that they all had good ideas that they want to bring forward for the benefit of the whole academy. Ideas to change some things for the better for every student.
They really were inspiring to meet and they are young people who will be brilliant advocates for the academy and role models for the rest of our students.
I’m sharing this because it’s good to hear what our students are thinking about our academy. It’s a bit like holding up a mirror, standing back and taking a look at the reflection. And on this occasion we can be pleased with what we see. Very pleased indeed.
11th September 2017
I don’t know about you, but one of the things I have been doing during the holidays is what some might say is rather selfish. I have been deliberately looking after me! And I feel so good for it.
The first two weeks of the holidays involved sleeping 10 hours a night. By the end of the second week I started to consider doing some exercise. Those of you who know me well, will know that exercise really hasn’t been my thing.
I was the kid who hid in the bushes on the school cross-country course so I only had to do the circuit once instead of twice! (I only got away with that once!) And the one who was always picked last for teams in PE!
However, with a certain birthday ending in a zero creeping onto the horizon, I knew action had to be taken – and I really feel good having started doing some exercise. I have the additional motivation of an NHS Couch to 5K app which is helping me along. The question is, how to maintain this, once the business of term begins again. And that is one of my personal challenges for this year.
At the heart of the Christian ethos of this academy is the Christian belief that every child is precious, and loved by God – and therefore totally worth investing in, believing in, and loving, to become the best they can possibly be.
But actually, that belief is about every human being – so that includes you and me as well. And at the beginning of this year, as your Chaplain I want to encourage you to remember to look after yourself – body, mind and soul. One of the books I read during my silent retreat this summer was about Sabbath – the practice of taking time regularly to recharge our batteries and do things which give us life, alongside some of the things that drain us.
You see, taking care of ourselves, will enable us to better take care of those around us – and that will help us to continue building a great community here at Archbishop Sentamu Academy.